Its the things that intrude upon that. Bitter never leaves. It just hides in the background, waiting for the moment to rear its head.
In a few hours I take my wife of 20 years to the surgeon and oncologist to discuss our options. Prognosis is excellent from all I?ve read up on DCIS, as long as we act quickly and get accurate information.
That was written in the late evening of the 29th of November 2011. Today is the 1 year anniversary of that visit. Chris Samuel (@chris_bloke) and his wife went through a similar event somewhat before we did. And he pointed out this XKCD to everyone on his twitter feed.
We got our surgical slot quickly, I believe we were given priority. Not sure why, but the post-operative analysis indicated that the cancer had broken out of the duct, and was growing rapidly.
I said later
Update 30-November-2011: A journey of a thousand miles begins with a step. We have just taken two steps. And we are going to keep pushing on, even if my feet are the only ones that are moving.
Even if its an “everyone gets this” scenario, the C-word can be pretty devastating. Even if you aren’t the one diagnosed, you are going through this with them. And sometimes, that means carrying them, and everything else, and soldiering onward. In retrospect, I am amazed at how composed and goal oriented we were. If you are not the one diagnosed, you shouldn’t simply put on a brave face. You have to be brave. Even if you are terrified inside. They can’t see that. They are looking to you for hope, to know that this is going to be all better. Even if you don’t know … you need to convey that strong, positive mental outlook. Plan for the future. The distant future. Make sure they see that your footsteps are moving forward, and theirs should be too.
After the surgical part was over, its time to look at the scoreboard. See what the tea leaves, and pathology report … but mostly the pathology report tell you. And I wrote a post about this.
The virtual sound you did not hear was the beginning of an exhalation (as in we?ve been holding our breath for a while). We aren?t done though. And while the SNLB is one of the very important factors in determining current state, its accurate in about only 25% of cases.
She had (note the past tense) what was stated to be a Comedo type, grade 3 set of cells. Our hope was that this was early enough stage that we could simply remove tissue and be done without other treatment.
You might have a sense of the trajectory we are on, or at least the trajectory we thought we were on.
Remove the stuff, and if the margins (how close to the borders of the tissue in the pathology lab) were good, and there were no invasive tumors, we were in the clear.
One of the above conditions was not true. The margins were good.
A small invasive tumor was found.
In 4 weeks time, we will be at a Trans Siberian Orchestra concert in Auburn Hills, at the Palace of Auburn hills. That will also be the one year anniversary of the surgery.
In 4 more years we can declare her winning this battle.
And maybe then, I can complete that exhalation.